This past weekend, I sat on Bekka’s couch and we cried. We also laughed, consumed Chick-fil-A waffle fries, and looked at pictures. Yet, the moment of exposed grief was poignant–a reminder of what we all desire every day. We need an opportunity to be vulnerable with our own special community.
But what does community really mean and how do we find it?
Having lived in NYC and LA, I struggle with building community. Fast-paced lives blend into rapid-fire cities which transcends into a realization that you are drinking wine alone on a Saturday because you are too exhausted to care.
Life’s obligations make it easy to throw community to the wayside. After all, why would I spend my time in a friend’s apartment when I have laundry to do? Why would I take an hour of my day to get coffee with an acquaintance when I need to get to Trader Joe’s before the lines get crazy?
Everything on my to-do list points to de-prioritizing community building. Yet, the days that I decide to flip my list upside down–I surprise myself. You find peace when holding your friend’s baby while she cooks. You engage your mind when you are surrounded by individuals from your neighborhood who are brainstorming how to create a local garden. You find strength when you weep together, when you rejoice together.
Community is your squad. It is your tribe. It is “the race that knows Joseph” as Cornelia Bryant would say.
You won’t find that community just because you share a similar Instagram aesthetic. It won’t magically appear as soon as you sign-up for Soul Cycle. You have to fight, sweat, and bleed to create a safe space. As an introvert, trust me when I tell you that it is worth the initial discomfort. Allow yourself to be surprised and blessed by the vulnerability and empathy of others.
Community. It’s a simple word with a thousand connotations and feelings. It evokes emotion and memories. Whether reliving days of being involved on a sports team, a bible study group, or even thinking about your friends at work who you grab lunch with everyday: we all crave connection with people we trust and care about.
I am a self-proclaimed people person. I love surrounding myself with people. I gain energy when I’m with others. I’m that weird person who likes going to Disneyland even when there are thousands of people there because I feel like it “de-stresses” me. And yet, in the past few years, I have learned that there is more to it than being surrounded by people. I can be surrounded by hundreds of people and yet, a part of me feels alone and empty. Maybe you can relate.
I’ve found that amidst the hustle and bustle of this crazy life I lead, there is so much richness in slowing life down and surrounding yourself with your “tribe.”
Your people. Your home team.
It’s the people that will stand by you, laugh with you, cry with you, listen and love on you.
As Anne in Anne of Green Gables would call it, “bosom friends.” We crave connection of souls. Of deep friendships and being able to say, “Really? Me too!”
I’m so thankful to have found that connection with my best friend, and I’m excited to come alongside her in this new adventure and to connect with others like YOU- I look forward to expanding my tribe. I hope you will too.
From both of us:
Today, we launch Estoria with the understanding that others are craving their own community. We hope we can be that space for you in our own small way. We hope that we can encourage you to find others who share your same desires, but have different perspectives. Be challenged by a community that is greater than you. Together, we can change our cities and homes to be places of empathetic growth and wild courage.